child behavior and discipline process

child behavior and discipline process

That the most important concern parents at this stage is the question

"How can we teach our children proper behavior and decent behavior that helps society to accept them?"

Community has certain expectations for the actions of its members and is the pre-school is the perfect stage to train the child to act on the basis of these expectations Fortunately, the children in this age group.

Tend strongly to tradition:
And wish all the insistence on doing all the routine work performed by adults.

Love to learn because they want to know their surroundings of the mysteries of the universe.

Worried about the potential loss of affection and love that they enjoy with their parents:
So they maintain a level of behavior that they expect that he remains on the love of their parents and, of course, depends on whether there is a sense in terms of the existence of this love child already ....!

Based on the presence of these properties when a child this stage will become very easy to get to the required levels if used in the treatment of the following methods:
Follow with your child in a practical principle of "love for your brother what you love for yourself" Your child will not give you the literature, cooperation and consideration than Tattiynh him

Suppose that you are asked to cooperative to solve the puzzle or building blocks, for example did not Tostagiba him but screamed in his face ... Do you expect him to help in the preparation of the table .... It also will not forgive you will not forgive you quickly if what attracted his hair during Tmsheeth.
Make sure that your child Tkavi on healthy behaviors

Instead of Tkavih bad behavior. This may seem to you something obvious, but in fact is.

For example
If I took your child with you while shopping and began to cry asking some candy may Tostagiben him to stop crying and Tnama you peace but if you took him with you during your web shopping and did not asking anything Will you buy him some candy? You usually do not doin 'Did you see then you sometimes تكافئين wrongful conduct without proper?
Connie positive

The young children prefer positive guidance because they must do while he did not respond to negative guidance that includes just the prohibition on things that are not true to do it.

For example
If you say to your child, "Do not leave your game so" a child in such a situation may not understand what he should do and will make it this ambiguous position reluctant to do anything either if I told him, "Gather your game and put it back in the basket allocated to them" has transferred his phrase something positive can be carried out by.
Kony and clear

May be إرشاداتك positive but may fail because it is not clear example "Be polite and scrubs of these behaviors" that these words are positive, but for your child at this age means nothing to what Tqsdenh this phrase is "do not do anything I'm not satisfied with it," is like This is in fact something impossible so that your child does not know everything Do not please him.
Explain to your child constantly reason that lies behind إرشاداتك

With the exception of emergency situations where unavoidable to come explain why later deemed not explain the reason behind the instructions that your child's guide to the overestimation of you in his wits if he asks why? For example, and I told him, "I say this" or "because that is what I want," I will not learn from you anything useful.

If we assume that you asked the child to put shovel in the place reserved for him without explaining the reason behind this demand, what is going on in the mind of the child then a reason for this: Is it because the shovel dirty or because the risk or it may break or because you want so تستطيعي get it easily when needed or simply that you want? That failure to explain the reason behind your request means that you do not know your child something.
Keep the word "no" to the general rules

That the use not only be effective when you want to terminate your child for doing something permanently permanently. If you want to end your child from doing any act now or under certain circumstances, in particular, it is better to give guidance in a positive way.
Give your child's confidence in himself

If hair you always Tmatrinh Boamrk and Noahik and he constantly Tsahhan his acts it may try then to think much as you should do and what should not be done so you had to leave your have some responsibilities that fit age or stage going through and Ocharih Bthagtk in ability to assume these responsibilities.

If allowed your child, for example to go to play with the children neighbors or relatives there Tmatrih barrage of instructions before going like "do not come to tears" or "you have to be quiet," "If gives you a thing Tell him thanks and if you mistype apologize" and so Fmadmt have allowed him go Vatercah bear is responsible for his actions that the large number of guidelines and instructions will not help him much on the act and all there is to it would make him uncomfortable to make this visit.
Being a role model for your child

That your child at this stage learn by example, if tapped into your child's speech outside make sure it will be repeated so if you ask your child to deny your existence will learn that he can lie, and so on.
If the child all your actions and notes Slot and mimics It is necessary to be prepared to recognize the error if I make a mistake

And apologize for the error and useful expressions when to apologize or justify error saying for example that "each person doing some acts silly sometimes," If understand your child this phrase and convinced telling the truth, it will not put himself or you higher levels of reality unnecessarily as it would not shock if Notice You first act wrong or unfair judgment or a white lie.

If presumably you accused your child to break one of the cups, for example, refused to give charity to the denial of it then discovered you were wrong you have to apologize to your child and you recognize Bouktik inevitable that you Talminh then that recognition of error virtue.

I have been wrong and you are fair in your judgment and rejected that Tsedkih when he was saying the truth if I asked him then that forgives the respect you will more not less.
Stubbornness and lack of obedience

Through their experience diverse discovers children at the beginning of this stage that the parents do not know always what he wants their children not understand every time the fact their feelings and for children Achtaarthm own them needs that can not parents be Esicarōha as if the child after discovering this shortly say "what forces me now that I keep Mcetkana and depositary Talaa as in the past have now exceeded the stage of adhesion and become independent me Kayani not Try So this new capability on secession and independence do not try to prove myself and I overcome all that prevents I got my Achaabaati. "

And showed a child in testing to measure the limits of this new queen he learns, for example, the word does not mean rejection but a child second not used to express the rejection of what does not want it, but also he say it in response to anything given to him or any proposal offered him whether his desire it or not and happiest child second when he does so, has succeeded in the small discovery ability to influence the adults around and control them and there is no father did not notice that the apparent familiar when a child second stubbornness and negative, but few of them who knows that this phenomenon is more a testament to the urgent need for a child this age to confirm the subjectivity and its ability to independence and automatic would be better if you you who know this truth and thus Tdmnin Ttakve correct perception of the child in such situations.




Miserable

Miserable something different from a stubborn child Mobster is often a child is mature it is unable to exercise sufficient self-control process in order to do what is known is that it is true. In other words, the child Mobster is one that is repeated from work error, although he knows that without the error in being able to control the same to avoid that.

And we can say that he has formed has a strong habit to carry out these miserable so he finds himself immersed to the extent that it does not do any good with him instructions. Unlike stubborn child who is quite mature and who refuses to execute your orders or Noahik which Aref so deliberately him.

We are doing this discrimination because the way we approach every situation is different. A child Mobster often forgotten he simply your objections lost Topkhinh acting then do you find doing again after one hour of time, but more than that, the child himself is surprised when he finds that it is located in the same error again.

That you have to talk to such children consistently and with greater empathy and you will find that they usually offer an apology and feel remorse in this case, you have to ĘŢČáí apologize warm welcome and full understanding.

However, there is a stage requires you to position some methods been used a setting in which case you should not use corporal punishment in any way, and all that you can Tflah is that Tzhba child some advantages that could have been obtained and Thrm some entertainment who is accustomed to be savored to come back to him these things again after that achieved the intended target.

May continue your child miserable for a long time and you have to be ready for it nor angry ĘŢČáí him any sign of response and encourage him and give him the confidence that the next time will be more committed than this time and make the reward is always that repeat your him what deprived of it.

Look for the source of this miserable there could be severe pressure tactics that sometimes exercised by one or both parents and remember that the intensity of the pressure generated explosion.

Try to Taatatefa with your child then not Tksi Valhqaoh is just a case of irritation rather than a desire to harassment.

Jealousy

Jealousy is one of the natural feelings for the child, but may have in some cases positive impact in the push to be the best and better than it is.

May help him to be someone who can be loved seeks friendship of children and other people and to be socially.

But if it leads to competition and jealousy melee, this means that the child for a lot of problems






Among the most famous of the reasons that lead to strong feelings of jealousy child .... The arrival of a new born baby. And a child feeling jealous because in this case he believes that the arrival of this new baby means the loss of his position and stature when his parents and here we must draw your eyes to the following:
Your child may resort to all the tricks and tools that attracts your attention - and may even do some acts for the previous phase if resorted to bedwetting - or refuses to eat alone or refuses to wear his own clothes.
Jealousy may direct directly to the new baby and trying to harm him.
May feel his inability to carry feelings of jealousy becomes quiet and introverted and completely Ervdk.
You must try to understand these feelings well, and help your child get ready for the arrival of a new baby by his assertion that your status will remain as it is always and _khassa him time where Tmanhanh every interest.
Ashrki your child in the care of the newborn - ask him to help in some easy business Newborn.
Amidha sound all his actions and Kavih especially if showed his love and compassion for your newborn.
Advisable not breastfeeding your baby "naturally" in front of your child during the first two days and you can Tgzba his attention to the activity during Aarzaek loves live after that.
Male child he was nursed in the same way when he was young and here may ask and be asked to suckle like his brother newborn not Tendhisha to this request but tell him that young only ones who breastfed because they can not to eat while you and I we as adults we can eat.
Sharkey baby while you Charkinh it before, and if it is contrary with Newborn care or breastfeed you can say to your child, "sorry", but I have to breastfeed born first - and I know he's not fair, but birth young can not wait for food as we do adults and that I am compelled to feed him first - that baby will sleep after feeding him and here I am and you have to play together. "
Accept any offer of your child to help but do not try to repeat this sentence, "You big baby" may not feel that great but may be his current problem is that it's great if it's small like the baby's got all the attention and love and affection. The display help may be an attempt to satisfy you.
Give your child some opportunities to act younger than his age and Amnhah feeling that in both cases receive love.
Ahmelih and Ahoudnyh goes to him may think that these things are not important to you, but make sure that it is very important for your child - Ocharih that in mightily to take the bottle if he wanted but he is so great can it be dealt with orange juice in a glass and will taste the tastiest of milk your Barzaah born .
Work through your child great practical features for being older child, such as giving him an allowance per day, or his father take him for a walk without a new baby.
Incidentally, the father's role is very important in terms of both the child care and newborn During Ancgalk care either one could be the father the other child care.
Some parents caring for the older child in this period during the busy mother newborn.
Do not let your child feel guilty for feeling jealous of the new baby.
Do not ask your child to love born - he can not if what I asked him that you'll feel guilty and you will feel that you Cetkrhinh if I stood on the fact he felt toward his brother was born. Contrast Tell your child that was born may cause some harassment to him, but when he grows up a little will become a friend of his.
Do not leave your child hurts baby and if it happens that harm your baby born will bound to feel guilty despite your belief in good intention and treated gently - for this Try not to fall like these things - Do not leave baby in the custody or care of the child, it is not fair to receive him like this responsibility.
Avhma-born child to love and work to clarify that it has. When approaching the baby will smile, born to him and here you can tell the child that the baby loves so smiling.
Finally, always remember that as long as Taflak depend you emotionally, there will be a sense of jealous of both of them, that other younger child may be stronger in some cases from the Great not try to increase his attention to one children at the expense of the other you respect the dignity of babies not try the comparison between the both cute but they differ not Ttakve one as an example to the other at all.
The actions are charming kind issued by one as a dilemma for the other children find it difficult to acquire or learn beware and comparison.
Lying

During the pre-school is mixed on the child often between fact and fiction and we call this a lie, and was probably meant to deny the child do some errors and clear example of this

Has broken child game sister accidentally If faced denied the incident whole is likely to angry to lie more than anger to break the game itself is also likely to Tksi it even admits it is wrong in such cases that Tmarsa any cruelty to children because that would not help him to recognize his mistakes.

If you want to be recognized child mistakes must then be Tsela this task can tell him, for example, "This game is broken ... I wonder what happened to her?"

Such a phrase often helps the child to say, "I broke it ... I unfortunately" An orientation instead of him like this phrase, "You broke this game is not it, Mobster neglected?"

When your baby recognizes doing to do what you have to make sure you do not exaggerate in your anger or punished him but if you're angry during that you will not dare to tell you next time.

The pay child to lie something other than fear it may be he has a strong desire for something into thinking he has already happened, for example: a child who is suffering from other severe younger sister may pay instincts aggressive natural in such a situation to imagine that irreparable damage had happened to her just it had signed a place, for example, then your child may be to you, carrying with him a fictional story that his sister had wounded a deep wound and shed blood ... And fainted ... Etc..

When Discovering such exaggerations not staggered child or liquidation of lying, but enough to say to him, "You are afraid of them to this point ...? Thank God ... she did not suffer in the form in which it called ... was just a simple slip ... and now Come helped me to clean the place of infection and cleansed "that the most important thing in such cases is to help the child to be realistic and deal with the main motive to exaggerate a jealousy.
Theft


During the pre-school, too, the concept of property rights of the child something vague and ambiguous. Within the same family there are many things that are co-ownership of all members of the family while there are some things owned by certain individuals from the family, but can the rest of the family borrowed. There are things that belong to its owner only and is privately owned as well as there are other similar complications outside the family.


From the point of view of the child
We find that a child may see it is recognized retain a small reel and her grandfather in the garden, while a mistake to keep for cash and grandfather
The view that there is no error to attend some of the colors from the nursery to the house but it is wrong to bring a piece of clay.
The child has no real concept of money
The child who collects things of others and hiding in a drawer might have emotional problems - which here and in a symbolic way - trying to take something feel internally that deprived him love or sympathy or affiliation instead of angry him and feel sorry and get him feel ashamed try to provide him what he needs and misses?
If you can not help him if he continued in the robbery So be understanding and ask to help a specialist to help you to see the problem calmly and properly resolved.
Do not worry the issue of tampering genitals

At the end of the first year the child begins to recognize his genitals in the same way that defines them in the past on his fingers and hands have you baby "or the child," which amounts to the old year and a half to explore her genitals during sitting on the container allocated to urinate there is no need to worry that this act will leads to a bad habit. In this case you can Tgzba your child or your child's attention to something else, such as giving them a game, for example - it is best not to hang or give the idea that it is bad or that her genitals represents something dirty or bad, Unscientific and even dress as follows:

You must help your child feel accept all parts of his body - because if felt scared of any part of his body parts or hated him, this will make it focuses attention it attracts attention to it may lead to bad results in the future.
If you try to prevent your child or your child hit her on her hand or river, that the will it be designed to carry out such an act.
When the child reaches three years of age he FARCE genital organs due to feeling like it.
Children between three and six years growing up and grow up in all aspects and Pedaun intimate feel passionate about persons close to them, especially parents and that in this period of age no love of the opposite sex with children and this is a natural phenomenon of the child's development.
If you look at this issue from this perspective will feel that this natural growth and it is something that happens to all children
If your child is busy with this process in general, there is no need for anxiety.

Some children carry out the process as a result of concern may be the reason for concern is the thinking of the child to the reason behind the different child from her or his concern that something will happen to his genitals.
In this case should not tell your child that he would hurt himself because that will make things worse.
Also, if you threaten your child by depriving him of your love and a bad child, this will add to the concerns.
Hakim method is that you try to dimensions fears for the child once feel Bbdaatha and if your child has such an act in front of some people or in front of you, you can transformative attention to something else without Topkhih or Valuation sentenced him.
After reaching six-year-old child




In the period between the sixth and even puberty seems that the child is making an effort to reduce the sense of manipulating reproductive organs - In this age have the child ideas that such an act is not right and wrong practice both him and his parents this or not Ikhbrah - In this period becomes the conscience of the child strong and be This does not mean that the child has declined to practice once and for all this and this is normal.

May be tampered genitals reference to concern the child at any stage of the old and in this case you should look for the reason behind your child's feeling anxious.

The child may be anxious to disease, his mother and his father, or to leave a parent - or because he felt lonely and his inability to make friends with other children ... Or for any other reason.

Some psychologists believe that tampering genitals does not cause any health damage or psychological child, but this does not believe that there is a need to prevent the child so as not to create any him out of fear or a sense of guilt and all us is that we are trying to occupy his time for anything else until accustomed to face problems more positive way.

Threats and intimidation Dharan children do not try to say things that are not true in order to give up the habit. For example, some parents say their children to tamper with the reproductive organs by reason of insanity or makes them evil, and that such a threat and intimidation will create deep concerns the child may distort has a sexual relationship in the future and it is afraid anything to do with sex.

If your child continues to practice this habit, it means that he has a problem and that this is only a big problem and you must help him to consult a specialist.
Tantrums

Is a common feature at this stage children tantrums and confirms that these seizures specialists in nothing abnormal when all children in this period. These seizures are not considered satisfactory recipe only when they are very violent and frequent plus take a relatively long period.

And that makes these attacks normal thing at this stage, especially at the beginning of the circumstances relating to the nature of the child's hand and his relationship with the papacy on the other hand.

In terms of the child could sum up those conditions in a public statement that the child at this stage you pay for doing primitive motives strong without having to learn how the controls in such circumstances increases the sensitivity of the child all that prevents it from satisfying its needs. Therefore, the simplest positions can raise a child's tantrums, Vtafl two who are unable to access the Treasury high for candy he wants, which may not be able to express it in words or which may not be the mother to a sufficient degree of sensitivity to understand what he wants, such as This child was confronted with a situation not before him بتحمله.

So this child is unable - after - on the set of emotions, so the immediate response to this situation is a fit of anger and many examples of these situations. Even what appears to be a large it's something trivial, such as the desire of the child to give him is the food first and before anyone else on the table or desire should handle food himself or to open the door by himself or so may work constantly to create tension between the child and parental If parents do not understand the fact that the child's feelings in these situations may increase the insult to injury.

In fact, he Maha parents tried to understand the circumstances that expose the child to a narrow and important, taking upon themselves that Asaaadah independence and to try to do new work and to express their wishes remain difficult for them to يتقبلا him angry and aggressive.

There is no doubt that they then face the duty of which is how important educational precludes these hostile feelings of the child to the more receptive channels and how to assist him or her to show restraint and important facts in this regard are:
That punishment may lead to the opposite

But that any attempts to silence a child during an attack of no use prolonging Nuba that the child in the course of Nubia not be ready to be convinced, but not even to listen.
Then yelling at the child's face or beaten to silence him

Furthermore it also does not help, it makes parents bad example can learn from the opposite of what is absolutely required.

That puts parents of restrictions on the movement of the child and his actions and his troubles as well as the competition that may occur between the brothers and the preference each other and other conditions household impeding the child already satisfy his basic needs are some of the reasons that lead to the occurrence of the child in the state of tension that may lead him to tantrums.
And specialists advised that adults respond to child tantrums

To remain as calm as possible, and that the closer to the child, talk to him, a thin silky voice, which could have an impact in calm him down. It is also possible to carry the child firmly and tenderness at the same time and placed in another room and left there until the end of Nubia. This measure is taken as a punishment but simply because it can not take any other action as he may not face bouts of anger or punishment. It is not permissible to allow the child to attend any demand by tantrums Valenobac pass without reward tend to disappear gradually and the important thing is to lengthen the parents for their patience and will arrive they eventually result investigator in this regard.
Aggression

There are many forms of expression of these desires aggressive when children this stage children of the second and third instance abound have tantrums where paying others and kicking and beating them with their hands in the course of these seizures either older children any age fourth and fifth, they use aggression physical and verbal together without having bouts of severe Anger as was the case in the previous period as well as they tend to get to play others and other Mmtlakathm and often this aggression on younger people.

And help the growth of aggressive behavior in children the way parents raise him Children who do not receive little love and attention and who always criticize and Aanvon these children are inclined to aggression in their relationships with others but more than that, there is considerable evidence that demonstrates that the punishment parents of aggression not leads to uproot or minimize it as appears to be the parent who uses corporal punishment but make himself a role model or a model child imitate aggressive.

Not only that, but that the parent may make himself aggressive role model in front of the child also whether his behavior is people tend to aggression is not surprising if we see that a child who also whether his behavior is personally inclined to aggression is not surprising if we see that a child who watches his father smashes everything around him when he gave them the anger is also a tradition of this aggressive behavior.

If successful, the child to use violence to get what he wants based on what he sees that this is the way in which the others either against him or against each other, this child is then inclined to abuse other children deliberately may be accompanied by aggression loudness or threat of movements to provoke fear.

It may also help to increase aggressive behavior in a group of children when they are crammed in a small space to play may occur either at home or at the kindergarten where they get beaten and shouting and pushing and adverse that they are in such situations are more the lack of ease of movement and overlap with each other and disability the movement of each other, and so on.

This whole Before Theloma child aggression you should first try to reach the reason behind this aggression, when you notice that your child began to follow the aggressive behavior is not تبدئي because that will increase aggressive behavior and instead of punishment

Azari him do not agree to this act.
أكدي him that in case of change of this behavior will Tkavinh and already Nfve.
And sacrificed him that whatever circumstances should not harm anyone else intentional and that he apologize for any act or incident he makes and cause harm or Eelam any child last
And he must remember at the same time that this advice would be useless or effect unless it is followed by all family members and apply actually in front of the child.

And sacrificed for the child to have the right to use his body to express his feelings, but not the right to use his body in harm anyone else.
Take my hand child abuser and my face has some phrases like
I know you're angry, but we do not hurt people because of abuse such as beating, biting or other thing hurts and you do not want one that hurts, and also should not hurt anyone.

Remember, you are bigger and more powerful than the child and therefore it is not necessary for you to hurt him so Tmanaah hurt or hit others - enough that Tmanaah and look for another way can be absorbed anger.
And sacrificed for the child that if you Tstnkeran he was angry but you Tstnkeran strongly this painful way to express his anger